To have a friend is to be one first

Andrew Roberts Mindset 3 Comments

To receive friendship then first you must give friendship. It is impossible to be a friend without being a giver and I’m not talking in the monetary sense. It costs nothing to lend an ear, give a hand or supply a shoulder.

It can be as simple as sharing laughter, or as effortless as an appropriate smile. It can be as gentle as a pat on the back or as embracing as a big bear hug. Just being there for your mate is what friendship is all about.

In the conclusion of my book, What The Hell Are You Chasing I talk about the importance of friendship and especially the importance of being a good listener.

I stand by that statement because to be a good listener, in contrast to simply hearing the voice of someone, helps the listener to share, and be involved with the conversation.

Too many people ask questions with little intent on hearing the answer. Their purpose is purely to introduce a subject which they can expand on, rather than having an interest in their friend’s response.

Take note next time you are in a conversation.  Sadly this happens much too much and make sure that when you next ask a question, be genuinely interested in the reply.

Edward Everett Hale once said ‘The making of friends, who are real friends, is the best token we have of a man’s success in life’. Pretty meaningful stuff so I reckon it’s fair to say beware of the man who has no friends. Doesn’t that tell you volumes about the man?

“The making of friends, who are real friends, is the best token we have of a man’s success in life” – Edward Everett Hale

If you are blessed with friends then cherish them. If you are lonely and in search of friendship then reach out and touch someone’s heart or soul, remembering that one of the best gifts you can give yourself is a good friend.