Expectations – Changing Your Definition of Success

Andrew Roberts Business, Mindset, Philosophy 32 Comments

Expectations …

Let me tell you what I have come to learn about them …

They can HARM you.

I am sorry for being blunt but I really need to express my opinion about expectations because I think they are dangerous and can potentially damage your life.

Are Your Expectations Realistic?

10 years ago I started my first business.

It was my expectation that within 12 months, I would  be making $30k per month profit.

Guess what … it didn’t happen

Who Gets Hurt When Expectations Are Not Realised?

I was the one who got upset and frustrated because I didn’t achieve the goal that I had set for myself.

I was on the verge of bankruptcy and very lonely, desperate and unhappy.

Why?  Because my expectation was not met.

Once your expectations are met, be careful …

Once I finally figured out how to make my business work properly, guess what?

I immediately created a new expectation.  This time, I was going to create a business that was going to pay me $500k per year passive income within 3 years.

Surprise, surprise – this didn’t happen either.

I felt flat, unmotivated and UNHAPPY.

Detach Yourself From Expectations

Fast forward 10 years.

WOW – I have let go of expectations.

Don’t get me wrong, I still set goals. (But not ones about x million dollars by an unrealistic date not too far into the future)

I’m just not attached to the goal anymore – which means if it doesn’t happen, I feel still feel OK about it.

The result?

I can focus on helping people.  I let go of my own selfishness and put my energy towards HELPING OTHERS.

Additionally …

  • My productivity has improved
  • My passion has increased
  • My ability to serve others has gone through the roof
  • And in an ironic twist, my bank balance has grown more than I could have ever imagined

Letting Go Of Expectations: Do yourself a favor – drop your expectations about What YOU Want.

Instead, focus every inch of your energy to serving and adding value.


I’ve been very inspired by Alain de Botton’s work recently, and he describes the formula for self esteem as success divided by expectations.

Let go of expectations and it will change your life.

p.s Would love to hear if you have any expectations at the moment that are hindering you like they were for me.